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Andres Alvarez's avatar

I like the line about structure removing the daily argument with yourself. That’s the real unlock.

Kyle Gilboy's avatar

The second you start negotiating is the second you lose.

Nicole Crowe's avatar

Kyle, I'm so proud of you. I'm proud of you for climbing out of the mess you found yourself in, and for being so vulnerable as to share your story. Way to go, kid. I say that because those are the words I tell my 3 kids when they tackle something hard - not necessarily succeed, but take the risk to even try. You're not much older than they are, so I'm totally speaking from my mom heart here. I bet your mama is proud of you, too.

Kyle Gilboy's avatar

Thank you so much, Nicole. I believe the only true failure you can make is never trying. Great wisdom to share with your kids, too.

Kris Smith's avatar

This is blowing up brother because you put it all on the table. Both hands clapping, cheering for your bravery here! Beautiful.

Peterson tells the story of simply bringing the vacuum into the dirty room of a hoarder one day. Then plugging it in the next. Then turning on. This is what it looks like.

Inspiring. Keep going.

And this does resonate: https://randommissives.substack.com/p/we-want-a-worthy-adversary

Like your post, what has helped is to accept these parts of me. To see nobility in the version of me who got off the mat and kept going. To be grateful for that man.

Kyle Gilboy's avatar

Love this perspective, Kris. Sometimes the steps really do need to be that small. And that’s perfectly okay.

Treating the past version of myself with love and gratitude instead of mockery has helped me not only get through this period, but celebrate it. Glad you see it the same way.

Thank you for being here.

Tom Selby Edge's avatar

Great post Kyle and what a journey you've been on, look how far you've come from that dorm room!

I look forward to reading more of your words.

Keep going, you've got this!

Kyle Gilboy's avatar

Thank you, Tom!! I look forward to reading yours as well.

Justice and Light's avatar

Nice article, timely writing and something I needed to hear.

Kyle Gilboy's avatar

Thank you for saying that. I was nervous to post it but glad I did.

Dido Torchi's avatar

Takes a lot of strength to share something like this, what a powerful story, Kyle! Love that you took that picture all the way back then, now you'll never forget how far you've come. Have also followed Peterson for a while, and that idea of not seeing responsibility as a burden but rather an avenue to add meaning to your life was a game-changer for me too. Inspiring journey, man, keep it going! 🫡✊

Kyle Gilboy's avatar

Thank you for the note, Dido! I’ll continue sharing what I’ve learned and how I can help others live their best life.

Data Frank's avatar

This feels like a reflection on reclaiming attention and intention moving from self-sabotage or distraction toward using your time in alignment with what actually matters to you.

Brad's avatar

There are detours, road blocks, speed bumps in one's life. "You don’t need to imagine the entire path, or believe everything will work out perfectly. The belief will come as you walk it. What comes first… is taking a step." Understanding this approach to life at a young age is so beneficial. I admire your strength in sharing this article with us.